What Is My Intention?

It is always a special moment of the year when the light comes earlier in the mornings and the darkness falls a bit later in the afternoons. The return of the light is very welcome – though there is something enjoyable about the darkness, lighting lots of candles and making it cosy. Looking back And as the days begin to open up, it’s a time […]

Of Light And Darkness

After the feeling of being re-energised a few weeks ago, light is the impression that is coming to awareness at the moment. The unsaid and the unseen, the entanglement all weigh on our lives, restricting our ability to see the world (and the people around us) for what they really are. It is like having a pair of sunglasses or blinkers. At some point we […]

What is a ‘Family Constellation’?

You may have come to this website because of something you struggle with in your life. You might have been wrestling with these issues for a while, even worked with a counsellor or a therapist, and yet they continue to affect your life. What is a Family Constellation? There is great insight to be gained from opening our minds and our hearts to a bigger […]

Feeling (re)-energised

I found myself reflecting on the recent workshops: if there is a repeated experience after each workshop, it is the impression of being re-energised. The issues that weigh on our minds, our bodies and our hearts can leave us with a sense of constriction, or having a restricted ability to move through our lives or to take the steps we want to take. By shedding light […]

Watching Grief

Thank you for the article about Change and Healing. It helped me make sense of my thoughts and feelings. I thought I would share them with you. Three months ago, a baby died. Since then, I have been watching grief threaten to overwhelm our family. Its long fingers reach deeper and deeper into who we are, who we were, who we thought we were. It’s […]

What Does Change Have To Do With Healing?

When we feel pain we usually want it to go away, want to ‘get rid of it’. Paradoxically, this movement of pushing the pain away, refusing to embrace it and listen to it, is often the movement that causes more suffering. Working with family constellations, we see that where there is suffering there is also a way to release the tight grip that suffering has […]

What would ‘better’ feel like?

Whether you are working on yourself or with a client, it can be really fruitful to take time finding out what you want – or what your client wants. Some people call this our ‘intention’ or our ‘heart’s desire’, our ‘burning question’, our ‘goal’. Even the words we use can make a difference, they can help us to feel more open, able to support not- […]

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Helen’s story

What follows is a personal account from a client I worked with in individual therapy about 14 years ago. I have asked her permission to include it because it shows movingly how much can follow from a very small intervention. Sometimes, as with Helen, the healing movement takes years and years before it bears fruit. All those years ago, we began to make a place […]

Chaos theory and chaos constellations, order or confusion?

Have you ever noticed how sometimes, a word normally rarely used pops up everywhere you look. For me, it’s been ‘chaos‘. Chaos in the weather forecast, which failed to predict a very cold spell, chaos in Haiti… Sneh sometimes refers to her work as ‘Chaos constellations‘, so of course the word caught my attention. I watched a programme on BBC 4 last week about chaos […]

Why a ‘Family Constellation’ workshop?

People come from very different starting points to family constellation workshops, bringing their unique story. Maybe you are struggling in your relationship, in your family, or with your children. You might feel something is holding you back from living the life you want. You might be struggling to come to terms with being adopted, or with the breakdown of a relationship. Maybe stress is pushing […]